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the introverts heartToday we are all guilty of feeling we need to fill our day with "To-Do" lists and then punish ourselves or feel bad when we don't accomplish everything we wanted to do.

The thing is, how many of the items on our list are critical, vital, absolutely necessary? The answer is that probably only a small few if at all!

We need to allow some down time into our to do list where we just give ourselves the gift of peace, solitude, quietness and reflective time instead of noise, chaos and hussle and bustle.

I found this picture and found it very good to reflect on. How many of these areas would you like to spend time in?

I know it is called the Introverts Heart but I wouldn't consider myself introverted but I do think the areas highlighted sound bliss.

When my kids are around, it is very busy and very noisy but at the same time that is okay too because I have some times in the day when they are not around, and so silence is my friend too when I am at home!

I find answers to all sorts of problems come from moments of silence. That doesn't mean I am sitting or lying down, I may be doing other things but in an atmosphere of quietness and eureka, a thought comes into my head. Thankfully a bad thought comes in to my head less and less so when a good thought or idea comes to me, thats great.

There are so many answers to questions right there inside of us. Often we don't think of asking, or don't trust our answers or ourselves and we can often spend time in the wrong places or consult the wrong sources for knowledge.

Not only does some down time give the body what it needs but it is also necessary for a healthy mind.Try turning off unneccessary backrground noises every once in a while. It may seem strange or lonely at first, but by doing it for some of the time, you will find it helpful and you will probably accomplish a lot more and sort out whatever is in your head that needs an answer!

Think about it for a minute. You go for a massage, facial, visit the steam room or sauna, talk a walk in the woods or whatever. Do you want to be bombarded with noise? No, this is not quality time and it takes from the experience of switching off and relaxing. The same can be done anywhere so try turning down or turning off, tuning out and letting go of noise and chaos. Orla Kelly



We have all been there, a point in our lives where we are unable to move forward, we don't want to go back but cannot create enough momentum or overcome the fear or what ever it is that is holding us back from moving forward with our lives. The above quote is so simple yet its powerfulness lies in its simplicity as anyone can relate to it. The good news is that the more you read it or learn it and repeat to yourself either out loud or in your head, or even write it down, the more it will make sense, the more it will stick with you.

The answer really is that you don't have to do everything right now and all together. That would be impossible. You cannot prioritize everything even if everything needs to get done. This will really keep you stuck in a rut.

We all think life rushes passed us and time files but does it really?

Look at nature, look at the sky, the waves, the animals. are they going around all freaked out, stressed, are clouds zooming past, are waves suddenly speeding up, are birds singing less because they have no time, not at all, nature is a great teacher and yes animals can be a lot wiser than us if you watch them. they can teach a lot about priorities and the waves and clouds simply go about doing what they do best and life continues as normal.

The same can be applied to anything and everything that needs to get done, one step at a time, set priorities fast without dwelling too much or you will never get going. What is the worst that can happen, you change the plan or you change course. That's fine and its also doable.


When thoughts come flooding to your mind, act as if you are a teacher.You know the troublemakers and the ones that should the loudest aren't always the ones that know what they are talking about, they may be just looking for attention, trying to distract or sabotage you.

Select the thought you want to listen to and act on it carefully, then the next and so on. If every thought is shouting for attention, there is too much noise and chaos and nothing gets done. The same applies for any harm done to you. Don't bunch all the negative things together. They are all not related and some really are only minor and although upsetting, won't affect you in the long term.

Anything else that has more significant consequences for you, again break them down and try to separate the person from the problem if it is a person that caused the problem and see what part of the problem you can tackle first. it is less emotional to deal with the problem than with the person who caused it and you will need to build up your emotional capacity and reserves to be able to deal with the person who caused the problem in the first place.-Orla Kelly